Recently I had to deal with disappointment. I won’t tell you what it was, but needless to say it affected me more than I thought I would. Surely, if we’re honest with ourselves I think we have all experienced disappointment at some point in our lives. In my quiet times with the Lord I felt that He told me it’s alright to be disappointed. The test is not the disappointment—it’s how you respond to being disappointed. Even Jesus experienced disappointment in the Garden of Gethsemane with His disciples (Matthew 26:36-46). Here are some things God spoke to me about concerning my response to being disappointed:
Don’t react. Our natural tendency is to react to a decision instead of processing through it. Take time to process why the decision was made and your feelings towards that decision. As Christians we need to trust that God is still on the throne and even though we may not like a decision—God is bigger and is not confined to man’s way of doing things.
Trust your leadership. Don’t trust them merely because they sign your paycheck, instead trust that they are making good decisions because they are who God has placed over you.
Talk through your disappointment. I had three people I talked to—one was my wife and two other godly men who I admire. This helped me get things off my chest and at the same time allowed me to listen to good, godly advice that encouraged and lifted me up. DON’T talk to people who will feel sorry for you. Talk to people who will push you to move on and do better. Feeding your disappointment “bug” can lead to forms of depression and negative feelings towards those who brought on the disappointment.
Think about what you can learn from the experience and take away the positive. Use this as a tool for personal and spiritual growth.
Don’t condemn or judge yourself. Disappointment is a natural response when something doesn’t go the way you wanted it to go. Failing at something or not having something fall your way doesn’t mean that you are a failure.
Read Job 38 to remind yourself how great God is—He is for you and not against you. I leave you with Revelation 3:8a (NLT), “I know all the things you do, and I have opened a door for you that no one can close.”